b'THE OFFICIAL NFBA MAGAZINETHE BALANCE TRAP (PART 2): HIDDEN SCRIPTS SABOTAGING YOUR BALANCELIFE MANAGEMENTLT - STOCK.ADOBE.COMBy Ray GageFounder of UntappedI ts 6:30 PM on a Tuesday. The crew wrapped up anYour clients script you as the miracle hour ago, but you\'re still on-site because the inspectorworker who bends time, weather, and showed up late, the material delivery was wrong,physics to deliver impossible results on and three different subcontractors called with "urgent"unrealistic timelines.questions that somehow couldn\'t wait until tomorrow. Your family scripts you as the provider Your phone buzzes. Text from your spouse: "Still at work?" who should sacrifice personal time for You feel that familiar knot in your stomach. The one thatfinancial security, then be fully present says you\'re failing at something, but you can\'t pinpointwhen you finally make it home.exactly what. The industry scripts you as the "dedicated professional" Here\'s what\'s really happening: You\'re not struggling withwho proves commitment through exhaustion and time management. You\'re drowning in unspoken roleavailability.assignmentsscripts written by others that you neverAnd here\'s the kicker: You\'re writing scripts for them agreed to perform. too.The Invisible Theater You expect your crew to care as much as you do. You In my previous article, we talked about why work-lifeexpect clients to understand the complexities without balance is a myth and how a life-work approach createsexplanation. You expect your family to appreciate better outcomes. But there\'s a deeper layer to explore: thesacrifices they never asked you to make.hidden scripts that make balance impossible before youNone of these scripts were negotiated. None were agreed even try. upon. But everyone\'s performing anyway and wondering Every day, you walk onto a stage where everyone haswhy it feels so draining.written a role for you: When Everyone Goes Off-ScriptYour employees script you as the omnipresent problem- Remember the last time you felt genuinely frustrated with solver who should always have answers, always besomeone at work or home? I\'m willing to bet it wasn\'t because available, and somehow absorb every crisis without itthey did something wrongit was because they failed to meet affecting anything else. an expectation you never clearly communicated.26 / FRAME BUILDER - VOL6 5'